Archive for January, 2008

Falling in Love

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008

As old-fashioned as it might sound, conventional dating is still what the modern-day people desperately needs.  It is a romance chaperoned by wisdom, and directed by God’s Word. According to  Joshua Harris, the author of  Boy Meets Girl, “It’s dating with a purpose. It’s a way of approaching relationships that can help us live out the truths of God’s Word as we pursue our heart’s desire. It’s a story of boy meets girl, where – whether you choose to marry or not – you can get to know each other in the confidence  that you have only God’s very best ahead for each of you.” 1  Online dating is more on the fantasy side, not governed by our emotion and perceptions in reality.  Proverbs 19:11 says, “A man’s wisdom gives him patience.” Biggest mistakes in romantic relationships were the result of impatience, trying to hurry things out, not taking things one step at a time. The absence of right pace and right time, clear purpose and clear head is romance at its worst.

“Falling in love was God’s idea.   He was the one who made us capable of experiencing romantic feeling.  He was the one who gave us the ability to appreciate beauty and experience attraction.  And He was the one who invented marriage so that the blazing fire of romantic love could become something even more beautiful – a pulsing, red-hot ember of covenant love in marriage.”2Someday, you will have your own story to tell.  It is a love story that will bring tears of joy or tears of remorse?  Will it remind you of the long and winding road of conventional dating you have experienced, though the hard way yet guided by God’s words and wisdom? Or the easy, convenient, and short cut way of online dating?    Will it be purity, faith, and selfless love; or compromise, impatient, and selfish love? The choice lies in your hand. It is for you to decide. A virtue guided by patience and wisdom.

Wouldn’t it be nice to tell a love story  that you will surely be proud of ?Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth;  bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Online Dating has its pros and cons

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008

Synonymous to a coin with two sides, Online Dating has its pros and cons. The question therefore, which weigh more, the advantages or the disadvantages. Let us probe deeper. Today’s fast paced lifestyle, where career has taken its toil, has left millions of people single. But with the emergence of Online Dating, where convenience is the name of the game. The quest to find love has never been this easy until now. Imagine, happiness, fun, excitement; all mixed up with so little investment, both emotionally and financially. With a vast array of profiles to choose from all around the globe, patterned to your specific criteria of compatibility. Doing all of these while in the comfort of your home, regardless of time, how you look, what you wear, and how much money you are willing to sacrifice. Indeed, the best of both worlds.

On the other hand, internet dating is taking a big risk for love. Since it is relatively cheap, easy, and convenient, everyone has an equal opportunity to be a part of this cyber world. Which means, we are all vulnerable, no one is guaranteed safe from those people with mean intention. Unlike traditional dating, where what you see is what you get. The absence of physical presence in online dating makes it open to undesirable elements. Anyone can sign up for a dating website; married people, hustlers, pimps, psychos can pretend to be someone they are not. Quite handy for them to hide their real identity behind the computer screens. No one wants to be cheated especially in the matters of the heart. Romance is a very wonderful thing. Not because it is an exquisite feeling doesn’t mean we can enjoy the pleasure out of it whenever and however we please. If this is the way, then love can be misused and misinterpreted in many ways.

Online Dating is fun

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008

Traveling the entire world? Definitely the most illusive dream I would want to be a reality.  However, the remotest possibility lies in the hand of a genie that  might popped out from the bottle of my favorite cola. Without the “Genie in the Bottle,” this dream of mine will forever be a dream, perhaps a hallucination or delusion not a reality. The fact is, only affluent people can afford and experience all the luxuries of life can offer, and the rest are left to be contended with what they have. This is the scenario when life was conventional, back in the olden days. The days of “yore.”Bygone days are long gone, history, that is.  Now, with our modern Era, the world is just a click away – just within our fingertips. Where everyone has an equal opportunity to relax, enjoy, and explore. This we owe to the dawning of technology, where everything is possible. The way technology revolutionized our life is breathtaking. It is now impossible to separate technology from us.

Over the last decade, the Internet has completely changed  the way human beings interact with each other.  Now, merely gazing into your computer screen will give you a love that might last a lifetime, or a love gone within a blink of an eye.  The culprit – Online Dating.   “Online dating is very popular these days. But while dating online has the advantages in its own, over the period of time this has been misused and is corrupted by many disadvantages. Online Dating is fun and convenient but still one has to be very careful while dating with someone they hardly know.